Dating Someone Flaky? FB Live


Hi there April Davis with luma luxury matchmaking so you went on a day with someone and you really liked them, but then you went home, and you text them or you tried calling them the next day and It took a while to get a response so right away you think oh, they don't want a relationship They're not serious They're just messing around or whatever it is that you think well that to me is not necessarily indicative of Someone that is flaky it just means that They just met you and they've only gone on one date with you and oftentimes I hear from clients that will say to me that all the people that they they've Met, or they've gone out on dates with or whatnot they just they weren't serious They weren't really looking for a relationship And I just find that really hard to believe because I mean with people all the time and that's what they want But when you are first in that initial phase of the relationship You're just you're both going different paces And you need to get find that you know point after you've been seeing each other for a while or you can put things on Cruise control and you are actually Communicating at the same kind of speed and you have that connection so when people have these expectations Of others where they think that that person should respond right away, or should make them a priority right away and should go On another date

You know two days later and You just you know it's not really the way that the world works You know you have to earn your place in that person's life You just met her or him They don't know you they don't owe you anything, so it's important to reset your expectations of the people when you first starting out when you're first starting to date them Because you don't know where they're at and you know they may be really busy or they may have all these other Priorities and they don't have a relationship, so they'd fill their life with everything all these other different priorities And that could change you know once they are in a relationship with someone But for now you know they're doing what whatever it is that they're they're doing and you know you'll earn that That position that place in their life eventually, but it takes a little a little bit at a time so chill and just Relax and just know that you know it will come when you after you've you know you have to it's like a plant You know you have to water it, and it has to get sunshine and it takes a while You don't just get the tomato or the flower the next day It takes time to get there so people just dis understand that you know everybody's at a different Speed and everyone's going different speeds at the beginning phase And you know it just takes a little bit of time for you to recalibrate it and get on that same Kind of playing field anyway I'm curious to hear your thoughts you know What are your experiences around this have you ever met somebody that you know you felt like they wanted a relationship tomorrow Or have you been on the other end of it where you just felt like they they just they weren't serious And they weren't getting back to you and weren't being really good communicators, or just felt like they were flaky or whatever I mean which I mean that that is true some people are just flaky, but of course you know especially at this day and age of Ghosting being really common all over the place so anyway I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this leave them in the comments below

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